I am 29 years old and here is what I know, don't know, think I know, etc etc...
You absolutely 100% cannot compare your life to anyone else or mirror what they do-
Someone you know still likes to party Thurs-Sun? Guess what, doesn't mean you should, or have to.
Someone you know owns a house? Doesn't mean you need to, this minute.
Someone you know wants to be married? It's ok if you don't.
Someone you know has been in more then one serious relationship, and you haven't really had one? That doesn't mean you should have by now.
You absolutely, 100% CAN-
Say no! It's ok, say it, you don't HAVE to go get drinks on a week night when you know you will be dead and exhausted and don't feel like dropping $20 for a night of small talk.
Spend a weekend alone. No it's not sad, no it's not pathetic. Get yourself a bottle of wine, make a date with Netflix. Go on a walk around your neighborhood, explore something new, go to a movie, eat at a fantastic restaurant. No shame. The more you realize you can do things alone and independently and not think twice about it, the more you realize, you are a grownup.
Love and then Love again. This is life, we get broken hearts, some make us feel like shit for several weeks, some several years. You will be able to love someone again, don't give up, keep going and don't forget to open your heart and mind together.
Have a crazy, drunken, night out! It's ok to still do this. Stay out until the bar closes. It's just now, you more realize that you cannot do these things two nights, or even, two weekends in a row. I know that if I have plans with a girlfriend, or some fun people, for a Saturday night I then know my Friday night will be dinner and a movie, IN, or just an early bed time, and vice versa. I still love a crazy, spontaneous, or planned, night out on the town and I don't feel guilty about it.
Spend some money on YOURSELF! Don't go wild and blow it, but you got a raise, and HAVE A CAREER now, splurge a bit!
Go on dates from Tinder. While I throw serious caution to this statement because of the crazies I personally have stumbled upon, I fully support going out and meeting someone new! Just because you're doing it does not put you in a position to have to be in a relationship, have sex, or even text them anymore afterward! You can say no thanks! It's that easy, (PLEASE SEE FIRST POINT IN THE CAN SECTION, "SAY NO.") so have some fun.
Change your mind! You are an adult. Nothing less, nothing more, (well...most of you). You can change your mind about a decision or a plan, just don't do it so often that you become a flakey friend. And keep in mind if it is plans that have been made far in advance, let them know far enough in advance to be kind and respectful, and definitely ACTUALLY call them! They deserve to know about it.
You absolutely, 100% (probably) Shouldn't-
Get wasted every night of the week.
Think it's ok to start drama by telling your friend what your other friend said about them.
Have so much booze that you cry over something that's not a big deal, (this struggle is real for the author of this blog..).
Rely on someone else for your happiness.
Have to EVER justify a right, just and honest thought or opinion, UNLESS it will outright hurt someone's feelings.
Compare yourself to someone else's success, financial situation or relationship status(REPEAT!)
Hold a grudge, life it way too short for that.
Lie. To anyone.
Allow anyone to make you feel unimportant, useless or uncomfortable.
Allow someone to make you feel guilty about something you have earned, I.E. moving up in a job, traveling, buying something, etc.
The most important thing I have learned and heavily repeated throughout my blog is this- Find yourself, find your happiness within yourself. Once you have accepted and grown into who you are, then it's time to spread your wings and succeed at life- in your career, with a partner and in your future. Don't make me say the saying of the 20 year olds, YOLO, but it's true. You get ONE life, ONE chance, ONE moment and ONE second to do something and make changes and be who you are.
Live it.
Peace Loves.
You absolutely 100% cannot compare your life to anyone else or mirror what they do-
Someone you know still likes to party Thurs-Sun? Guess what, doesn't mean you should, or have to.
Someone you know owns a house? Doesn't mean you need to, this minute.
Someone you know wants to be married? It's ok if you don't.
Someone you know has been in more then one serious relationship, and you haven't really had one? That doesn't mean you should have by now.
You absolutely, 100% CAN-
Say no! It's ok, say it, you don't HAVE to go get drinks on a week night when you know you will be dead and exhausted and don't feel like dropping $20 for a night of small talk.
Spend a weekend alone. No it's not sad, no it's not pathetic. Get yourself a bottle of wine, make a date with Netflix. Go on a walk around your neighborhood, explore something new, go to a movie, eat at a fantastic restaurant. No shame. The more you realize you can do things alone and independently and not think twice about it, the more you realize, you are a grownup.
Love and then Love again. This is life, we get broken hearts, some make us feel like shit for several weeks, some several years. You will be able to love someone again, don't give up, keep going and don't forget to open your heart and mind together.
Have a crazy, drunken, night out! It's ok to still do this. Stay out until the bar closes. It's just now, you more realize that you cannot do these things two nights, or even, two weekends in a row. I know that if I have plans with a girlfriend, or some fun people, for a Saturday night I then know my Friday night will be dinner and a movie, IN, or just an early bed time, and vice versa. I still love a crazy, spontaneous, or planned, night out on the town and I don't feel guilty about it.
Spend some money on YOURSELF! Don't go wild and blow it, but you got a raise, and HAVE A CAREER now, splurge a bit!
Go on dates from Tinder. While I throw serious caution to this statement because of the crazies I personally have stumbled upon, I fully support going out and meeting someone new! Just because you're doing it does not put you in a position to have to be in a relationship, have sex, or even text them anymore afterward! You can say no thanks! It's that easy, (PLEASE SEE FIRST POINT IN THE CAN SECTION, "SAY NO.") so have some fun.
Change your mind! You are an adult. Nothing less, nothing more, (well...most of you). You can change your mind about a decision or a plan, just don't do it so often that you become a flakey friend. And keep in mind if it is plans that have been made far in advance, let them know far enough in advance to be kind and respectful, and definitely ACTUALLY call them! They deserve to know about it.
You absolutely, 100% (probably) Shouldn't-
Get wasted every night of the week.
Think it's ok to start drama by telling your friend what your other friend said about them.
Have so much booze that you cry over something that's not a big deal, (this struggle is real for the author of this blog..).
Rely on someone else for your happiness.
Have to EVER justify a right, just and honest thought or opinion, UNLESS it will outright hurt someone's feelings.
Compare yourself to someone else's success, financial situation or relationship status(REPEAT!)
Hold a grudge, life it way too short for that.
Lie. To anyone.
Allow anyone to make you feel unimportant, useless or uncomfortable.
Allow someone to make you feel guilty about something you have earned, I.E. moving up in a job, traveling, buying something, etc.
The most important thing I have learned and heavily repeated throughout my blog is this- Find yourself, find your happiness within yourself. Once you have accepted and grown into who you are, then it's time to spread your wings and succeed at life- in your career, with a partner and in your future. Don't make me say the saying of the 20 year olds, YOLO, but it's true. You get ONE life, ONE chance, ONE moment and ONE second to do something and make changes and be who you are.
Live it.
Peace Loves.
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