Have you ever gone on a date, or even just exchanged phone numbers, texts or see each other, hit it off, flirt, etc, and then POOF, the guy just DISAPPEARS....!? I think we all have, unfortunately. If you are in the dating world it will happen eventually if it hasn't already. Sorry!
Where do they go? I have a theory that they must have died. Or they have a retreat they all gather at, sit around and drink some beers and watch sports and have a good laugh about all the girls they have left hanging.
Don't get me wrong, I am sure there are plenty of girls who have done this before as well, but MOSTLY it's guys, as I know from personal experience, every dating movie, TV show (hello SATC), and girlfriend I have. Who tells them they have a right to do this? A secret bad dating angel who whispers it into their ear when they enter the world from the womb? Is there a book they read and not tell us about? WHY!? What gives them the right to all of a sudden take us on dates, take time to call or text us, and then POOF, stop without a warning?
Let me ask you this- how hard is it to simply say, "it's been fun getting to know you, but I am just not feeling it." OR, "I am getting back together with my ex... but thanks for hanging out." LIKE it takes 5 seconds to send a text so even if you lie, I would LOVE to have some closure, or even a brave reason why you are finished, I will be ok! Just tell me the truth, or a lie so I can carry on without the wondering and agonizing over what I did wrong, when actually it was most likely ALL YOU.
Aren't guys supposed to have "balls" and be brave & manly? Why do girls have to carry on without closure? Why is it something we have to prepare for or even have to think about?
Questions after every single first date that have boggled my mind-
Did I talk too much?
Did I say something wrong?
Did he like me?
Did we connect?
Will he call me?
Oh my gosh, when will he text me?
I hope we have a second date.
Should I have paid?
Did he seem like he wanted to kiss?
Do I text him and thank him? Is that too clingy?
Did I seem clingy?
Did he think I was independent?
Did I smile enough?
Was I funny?
I feel like a guys list of questions consists of-
...........
Nadda. Because they're guys and don't dwell and analyze (according to my boyfriend, they actually do as he mentioned times he wondered if he was texting me too much...haha!) as much as we do, if at all. I think if they are interested they keep up until it fades or grows, if not, they don't bother. But it's those guys that actually INVEST time, energy, AND money on us and then BYE FELICIA without another word that BLOW MY MIND.
I had a guy who I watched an ENTIRE season of a Netflix show with, via text- cheesy I know, but it was fun to have someone to discuss it with. Just to remind you: an ENTIRE season. After 3 months of texting, and meeting once, he legit dissapeared. I continued to text, a coule of times, as we had done this whole texting and hour phone calls for 3 months! 90 days! He had the 'read' option on his texts and I saw that he read everything. BUT NOTHING. WTF. I have several others that I could throw in here too but I think you get the idea!
I also have a girlfriend who met a guy on a dating app, went on several really cool dates, including awesome seats to a Dodgers game, and showing him her stomping grounds, etc, and then ALL of a sudden, KAZAM, like a magic trick, zilch.
Someone needs to tell guys to suck it the hell up- it takes five seconds and a little thumb action- send a text that says thanks but no thanks, that's literally all.we.need.
And scene.
Where do they go? I have a theory that they must have died. Or they have a retreat they all gather at, sit around and drink some beers and watch sports and have a good laugh about all the girls they have left hanging.
Don't get me wrong, I am sure there are plenty of girls who have done this before as well, but MOSTLY it's guys, as I know from personal experience, every dating movie, TV show (hello SATC), and girlfriend I have. Who tells them they have a right to do this? A secret bad dating angel who whispers it into their ear when they enter the world from the womb? Is there a book they read and not tell us about? WHY!? What gives them the right to all of a sudden take us on dates, take time to call or text us, and then POOF, stop without a warning?
Let me ask you this- how hard is it to simply say, "it's been fun getting to know you, but I am just not feeling it." OR, "I am getting back together with my ex... but thanks for hanging out." LIKE it takes 5 seconds to send a text so even if you lie, I would LOVE to have some closure, or even a brave reason why you are finished, I will be ok! Just tell me the truth, or a lie so I can carry on without the wondering and agonizing over what I did wrong, when actually it was most likely ALL YOU.
Aren't guys supposed to have "balls" and be brave & manly? Why do girls have to carry on without closure? Why is it something we have to prepare for or even have to think about?
Questions after every single first date that have boggled my mind-
Did I talk too much?
Did I say something wrong?
Did he like me?
Did we connect?
Will he call me?
Oh my gosh, when will he text me?
I hope we have a second date.
Should I have paid?
Did he seem like he wanted to kiss?
Do I text him and thank him? Is that too clingy?
Did I seem clingy?
Did he think I was independent?
Did I smile enough?
Was I funny?
I feel like a guys list of questions consists of-
...........
Nadda. Because they're guys and don't dwell and analyze (according to my boyfriend, they actually do as he mentioned times he wondered if he was texting me too much...haha!) as much as we do, if at all. I think if they are interested they keep up until it fades or grows, if not, they don't bother. But it's those guys that actually INVEST time, energy, AND money on us and then BYE FELICIA without another word that BLOW MY MIND.
I had a guy who I watched an ENTIRE season of a Netflix show with, via text- cheesy I know, but it was fun to have someone to discuss it with. Just to remind you: an ENTIRE season. After 3 months of texting, and meeting once, he legit dissapeared. I continued to text, a coule of times, as we had done this whole texting and hour phone calls for 3 months! 90 days! He had the 'read' option on his texts and I saw that he read everything. BUT NOTHING. WTF. I have several others that I could throw in here too but I think you get the idea!
I also have a girlfriend who met a guy on a dating app, went on several really cool dates, including awesome seats to a Dodgers game, and showing him her stomping grounds, etc, and then ALL of a sudden, KAZAM, like a magic trick, zilch.
Someone needs to tell guys to suck it the hell up- it takes five seconds and a little thumb action- send a text that says thanks but no thanks, that's literally all.we.need.
And scene.
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